Alone even tho I'm girlfriend material


Valentines Day!

Be your own Valentines or Celebrate it with family or close friends and love ones. I will spend it at home around my family and most important part with myself. You have to learn to love yourself in order for others to love you. It's been over a year now of me begin single and man what a time of growth and learning about myself and others. 


I'm not going to say I was 100% alone this whole time.. I learned that nowadays commitment is not a thing that is common; and that casual is more of the usual, the more I meet guys the more I see them  not interested in creating meaningful relationships.


The dating world in 2020 goes down to the physical and pays no attention to the emotional and goal oriented or commitment part. I have always seeked for that love in others when were I truly needed to seek for love was in myself. We spend our time searching for love, being in the wrong places at the wrong time, getting in situations that are hard to end, repeating toxic cycles over and over and not focusing on our self's. Not focusing on the love we should be giving to your own self, your body, your mind your soul.

 I'm gonna be honest I have made the mistake of craving support from someone I loved; but always ended up getting dissapointed and pushed away because the people I kept on surrounding myself with; never believed in me or simply thought I was a fool wanting to do the things I loved (Blogging, Photography, Youtube).

 I noticed that I can't blame anyone, I could only blame my self for not believing in me.

It was actually me who wasn't believing in myself and man how now that has changed, just because sometimes we get blinded in love and trying to make things work, trying to please others, we expect to much from others and not notice that sometimes others don't really care about the same things we care for, sometimes we expect others to lift us up when Its "You" that needs to find the strength to keep pushing toward your goals and dreams.

If you are single... this is the time to learn about yourself, become passionate about the things you love, make new friends, find new hobbies, take care of your health and physical appearance. Like a friend once told me you need to become obsessed, with the things you want to achieve. 

 Find people that can support you and make you feel appreciated and also do the same for others. believing in your projects and ideas; not just the first week or second week, but consistently and genuinely support you and your goals.

The thing I dislike the most is a person that fakes begin a supporting friend but in reality is selfish, people that say they care about others but can't even ask or understand your personal and family situations. If you want to help others grow, help them grow, don't push them away, be that kind and supportive person.

If you are currently in a relationship I am truly happy for you. You don't understand how much I love LOVE, and I hope it is a healthy relationship too. Don't forget to keep working on yourself everyday all tho you have a partner; always give each other love and support, and if things don't feel right step aside so both of you can growth in the right direction that may be ahead. 

Remember to love yourself above anything!!!











                   

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  1. Hello Taryn. I am a Pastor(Church Priest) from Mumbai India. I am glad to stop by your profile on the blogger and the blog post. I am also blessed and feel privielged and honoured to get connected with you as well as know you and about your interest in exploring tourism foood and fashion. I have throughly enjoyed your very encouraging and helping to love self. I have also enjoyed your beautiful pictures with a raw coconut in your hand with coconut water to drink. This is very Indian way and I am suspecting that you are very much Indian by your look. Your 15 ways of How to Love Yourself and worth following specially by the young people who are victims of self under estimate which develpes in to idintity crises. I would refer to the Biblical secipture found in Romans 12 where the writer St.Paul is admonishing the readers " Therefore I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God-this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your minid. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is -His goodm pleasing and perfect will" Romans 12:1-2. I love getting connected with the people of God around the globe to be encouraged strengthened and praying for one another. I have been in the PASTORAL MINISTRY for last 40 yrs in this great city of Mumbai a city with a great contrast where richest of rich and the poorest of poor live. We reach out to the poorest of poor with the love of Christ to bring healing to the brokenhearted. WE reach out to the poorest of poor with the love of Christ to bring healing to the brokenhearted. we also encourage young and the adults from the west to come to Mumbai to work with us during their vacation time. We would love to have you come to work with us during your vacation time. I am sure you will have al ife changing experience. Looking forward to hear from you very soon. god's richest blessing son you your family and friends also wishing you and your famiy a blessed and a Christ centerest rest of the New year 2020. My email id is: dhwankhede(at)gmail(dot)com and my name is Diwakar Wankhede.

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