29 Lessons

July 22, 2020


Wow I made it.... I'm officially 29 what a year health recovery, self discovery, a terrible dating life and to top it off a Pandemic and to end it a letter telling me I was being furloughed from my amazing job. At this point I don't even know how to feel. I'm sure many of you can relate to all this or even worst. It's the way we look at things and all the possible outcomes prepares us for any scenario, push yourself to always be optimistic.


Health wise I'm feeling great my Rheumatoid Arthritis is doing pretty good most days.

I think most of my lessons had to do with health, love, self-love and finances

Here are 29 random things I learned.

  1. When you feel pain or feel unwell don't keep putting off going to the doctor. Just go!
  2. Give love and don't expect to receive it in return in the same amounts (even thought it would be nice)
  3. Enjoy every moment and be grateful for the beautiful things in your life.
  4. Travel and learn from others, meet people and learn about different cultures.
  5. Don't take anything for granted, being around people you love, friends family and the moments you spend with others.
  6. What out for your mental health and don't be scared to look for professional help.
  7. Have control of your emotions dont let your emotions have control over you
  8. Not everyone is as kind as you are to them.
  9. Don't ever blame yourself for how others act.
  10. Belive in the law of attraction, use affirmations, create rituals.
  11. Don't be so hard on yourself. Love your body you only get one.
  12. Travel travel travel
  13. Learn new things, cook, crafts, a new language, any cool thing!
  14. Excersice it will actually make you feel amazing.
  15. There is toxic people make sure to identify them and try and stay away.
  16. Inconsistency says more....
  17. Consistency is key.
  18. People will lie to you looking straight in your eyes🤷🏻‍♀️
  19. Read often, listen to podcasts, audiobooks, constantly educate yourself.
  20. Take a chance and message that person the worst that can happen is no reply. lol
  21. Once you walk out of my life I'm not gonna hang around, and don't expect to pop back in.
  22. You will be betrayed by the people you least expect, so always expect everything from anyone.
  23. You will eventually stop crying about everything.
  24. You will get ghosted a lot for no reason. Its not you I promise haha just people don't know how to handle and adult conversation of closure
  25. Have a decent looking savings account (just in case of a pandemic or you suddenly become unemployed)
  26. Don't waste your time dating and focus on yourself.
  27. If you have and idea or dream stop putting it off. Life is to short.
  28. And I you want to do anything just go for it. You will only regret what you never did or tried.
  29. Love yourself first.
Look always towards great thinks, cry 5 mins and move on, stay positive, and look for people that love you and inspire you. You have so much to learn. You are beautiful and you are worth so much. I am looking for opportunities in all this chaos I encourage you to do the same💜

Love Taryn🌺


Alone even tho I'm girlfriend material


Valentines Day!

Be your own Valentines or Celebrate it with family or close friends and love ones. I will spend it at home around my family and most important part with myself. You have to learn to love yourself in order for others to love you. It's been over a year now of me begin single and man what a time of growth and learning about myself and others. 


I'm not going to say I was 100% alone this whole time.. I learned that nowadays commitment is not a thing that is common; and that casual is more of the usual, the more I meet guys the more I see them  not interested in creating meaningful relationships.


The dating world in 2020 goes down to the physical and pays no attention to the emotional and goal oriented or commitment part. I have always seeked for that love in others when were I truly needed to seek for love was in myself. We spend our time searching for love, being in the wrong places at the wrong time, getting in situations that are hard to end, repeating toxic cycles over and over and not focusing on our self's. Not focusing on the love we should be giving to your own self, your body, your mind your soul.

 I'm gonna be honest I have made the mistake of craving support from someone I loved; but always ended up getting dissapointed and pushed away because the people I kept on surrounding myself with; never believed in me or simply thought I was a fool wanting to do the things I loved (Blogging, Photography, Youtube).

 I noticed that I can't blame anyone, I could only blame my self for not believing in me.

It was actually me who wasn't believing in myself and man how now that has changed, just because sometimes we get blinded in love and trying to make things work, trying to please others, we expect to much from others and not notice that sometimes others don't really care about the same things we care for, sometimes we expect others to lift us up when Its "You" that needs to find the strength to keep pushing toward your goals and dreams.

If you are single... this is the time to learn about yourself, become passionate about the things you love, make new friends, find new hobbies, take care of your health and physical appearance. Like a friend once told me you need to become obsessed, with the things you want to achieve. 

 Find people that can support you and make you feel appreciated and also do the same for others. believing in your projects and ideas; not just the first week or second week, but consistently and genuinely support you and your goals.

The thing I dislike the most is a person that fakes begin a supporting friend but in reality is selfish, people that say they care about others but can't even ask or understand your personal and family situations. If you want to help others grow, help them grow, don't push them away, be that kind and supportive person.

If you are currently in a relationship I am truly happy for you. You don't understand how much I love LOVE, and I hope it is a healthy relationship too. Don't forget to keep working on yourself everyday all tho you have a partner; always give each other love and support, and if things don't feel right step aside so both of you can growth in the right direction that may be ahead. 

Remember to love yourself above anything!!!